Compassion Network Daily

eric     Eric Whitacre is one of the good guys.  He may not seem like the obvious choice for singling out in regards to compassion but that is exactly why I have chosen him.

Most people see compassion as something outside of the themselves, something extra, something heroic that they do to help others.  Some people argue that they have nothing to give or nothing more to give.  They will say they have nothing to offer.  Compassion is about making who you are and whatever you do . . . a gift.  It is almost the process of valuing that in yourself and your willingness to share it with another that transcends all the barriers and transforms it into this magical energy that touches the lives of all it comes into contact with.

Eric Whitacre conducts and composes music.  He is gorgeous, and having had the opportunity to meet him and work with him, I can tell you what you see is what you get.  He is just simply a good person who cares about people, loves life, loves music and pulls it all in together to unite the world and touch hearts and well . . . music is a universal language that can break down almost any door.  He takes what he does and elevates it from a daily job, or even a career . . . to a gift.  He could rest on the laurels of his talent in the normal offerings but he hasn’t.  He came up with the idea of a virtual choir.  He took the voices of ordinary people around the world, mixed them all together and created a choir that was presented in a video.  Thousands of voices united in making beautiful music.

It is the idea that it did not matter where people lived, who they were, what they looked at, their level of talent . . . the only thing you needed was a voice and you could participate and out of all of that he created moving, stunning masterpieces of music that leave you with every hair on your body tingling and a sense of togetherness with the world.  It speaks to hearts of possibilities of healing and overcoming, even if only for a few moments.  That inspiration could lead to hundreds of solutions in the minds of people in position to put their work and their daily efforts onto a giving scale.

Compassion can be direct and indirect.  It can be about directly helping someone and about supporting those who directly help.

I believe his offering for the Glasgow Games with the youth choir is his 4th virtual choir, this time involving the youth.

LISTEN TO IT HERE.

I have followed the man on Facebook ever since I met him.  He always has time to talk to people, to share his life, his talent, his message . . . which is simply his joy and his love.  It makes a difference.  You can too.

 

 

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“People who really want to make a difference in the world usually do it, in one way or another.  And I’ve noticed something about people who make a difference in the world:  They hold the unshakable conviction that individuals are extremely important, that every life matters.  They get excited over one smile.  They are willing to feed one stomach, educate one mind, and treat one wound.  They aren’t determined to revolutionize the world all at once; they’re satisfied with small changes.  Over time, though, the small changes add up.  Sometimes they even transform cities and nations, and yes, the world.”  Beth Clark

Adult Survivors of Child Abuse. The Cost.

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Great Resource Site with Lots of Information for Survivors and those of you who know someone who has survived.  Healing has a lot to do with the environment the Survivor is in.  Are you aware?  Are you compassionate?  Are you hard on the person, not taking into account how the abuse has impacted their entire life?  There is plenty for all of us to learn, to help these people heal.

ASCA – Adults Surviving Childhood Abuse

PAS – Let’s Talk About Step Moms.

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There are plenty of problems with step moms who overstep their boundaries with their step child and who make a difficult situation worse.

Your ego has NO PLACE in the situation you find yourself in.  You got involved with a man who has a history that involves his children from a previous marriage/relationship.  You clearly chose to be in this position.

The children come first.

This does not mean they are more important than your relationship with your partner, it simply means that life gives us a list of priorities.  Parents the world over manage to make their relationship important while tending to the number one priority of their children.  It is an 18 year commitment, at the least, and it does not change just because you change partners mid stream.  You can be part of the team but you cannot show up with your own boat and kidnap the children.

Forget about fighting anyone.  Forget about a competition.  There is only one intended winner in this and that is the child.  The child can only win if everyone realizes they are on the same team.

No badmouthing the mom.  No trying to replace the mom.  No keeping the child from the mom – EVER.  If you are going to pursue these practices then you are committing child abuse.  You look up Parental Alienation Syndrome and get ready because the courts are finally recognizing it and starting to hold the offenders accountable.  Even if you escape legal consequences, the children will eventually hold you accountable.   You will have to live with the knowledge you destroyed a child with your petty hate and anger.  It is not a legacy that is easy to live with as you go gentle into the final years of your life.

If your happiness depends on knowing that you have forced a mother to go to bed sobbing for her child, then you have a serious problem.  And you need help.

The following articles are insightful and helpful in encouraging people to work together and do the right thing for the children.

10 Brutal Truths About Being A Step Mom

Managing the Relationship Between Moms and Stepmoms

 

 

Compassion Network Daily

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There are those who complain about their lot in life and their are those that are too busy doing what has to be done to have time to complain.  One woman, making a difference for one other person.  She would probably argue that her life had great purpose and meaning, and he would most likely not have had a life without her.  Can we truly claim that one person cannot make a difference?  Compassion – the highest emotion known to man, having the most positive impact upon our DNA and the health of our bodies.  In helping others, we are actually choosing life for ourselves.