The soul of the world is crying to be heard~and only those who have suffered can fully recognize it. If women can come to know the sacred dimensions of their own and the earth’s suffering~If they can see that it is part of the mysterious destiny of the soul of our world, if they can look beyond their own personal pain and anger to accept their larger destiny~then the forces of life can flow in a new way.~Llewellyn Vaughan~Lee
“There will be moments in life when you just have absolutely no idea who you are, what you are doing, or why you are here. These moments are drenched with questions when you most need answers.
Remember something for me — give yourself time. Give yourself the space to be lost and then to be found in the questions and in the answers that will come. Remember to breathe in the confusion and just take it a day at a time. Remember that you are a human being — fragile and beautiful. Remember that being human often times means being broken into wholeness.
Be gentle with yourself in the process of being formed. Be patient with life and the questions that are piling up inside your heart. Take it a day at a time, a breath at a time, and just do what you can in that moment to press forward.
You are not going to stay like this forever; you will find your way, you will grow in these moments — you will be okay.
I love you. I am rooting for you.
Breathe…” Dele Olanubi
The story of the 4 Vincenti girls, kidnapped from Italy where a separated couple had joint custody is ongoing. The world watched as the girls were made the centre of a legal and media battle with the mother, Laura Garrett, who kidnapped the girls, insisting the father that abusive and mentally unstable.
The back and forth, and finally in 2012, the heart wrenching seizure of the girls, forced on a plane to be returned to their father, was more than most people could deal with.
I am going to once again plug this site on Parental Alienation and I am asking people to read it and pay close attention to the signs of an abusing parent, the signs of an abused child, and ask yourself if you are supporting someone who is alienating their child. We are destroying our children with our need to exact revenge for our own problems. Our children deserve better than that. WE are the village. WE can change things if we simply educate ourselves and do what we can with our own responsibilities and spheres of influence.
I wish that, as a child, I knew the things that I know now. I think a lot about kids that I knew and the circumstances of their lives.
There are so many things you miss, or ignore, when you are kid and the whole world revolves around you and what games there are to be played at recess.
I think about the girls who were even more marginalized than I was. Do they know it was not them? Do they know that we were a small insular farming community in so many ways. Anything new or different, or anyone who could not trace their roots back to the beginning of the community, was never going to be allowed any space. Do they know that I was marginalized too? It may have looked like I was part of things, my family name bought me tolerance. I was too good to not have on the school teams, but I frequently sat alone going to the games and any opportunity to not include me was never overlooked. Why did we all cry alone in our bedrooms hidden from one another? Have they carried those scars with them though their lives, believing the lie that they are not good enough? Has anyone ever apologized to them? Are they added to the list of “friends” everyone collects to prove they were awesome, or, are they still being marginalized? Continue reading Things I Think About.
“There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.” John Lennon