“Someone needs to tell those tales. When the battles are fought and won and lost, when the pirates find their treasures and the dragons eat their foes for breakfast with a nice cup of Lapsang souchong, someone needs to tell their bits of overlapping narrative. There’s magic in that. It’s in the listener, and for each and every ear it will be different, and it will affect them in ways they can never predict. From the mundane to the profound. You may tell a tale that takes up residence in someone’s soul, becomes their blood and self and purpose. That tale will move them and drive them and who knows what they might do because of it, because of your words. That is your role, your gift. Your sister may be able to see the future, but you yourself can shape it, boy. Do not forget that… there are many kinds of magic, after all.”    Erin Morgenstern


Why Do Women Make Some of the Worst Friends?


It gets complicated.  Everyone loves to have someone they can have the heart to heart with …every woman needs that connection.

Women are connected in so many ways … the women’s “tent” where understanding was lent, lessons learned, and experiences shared …. amongst generations and peers … acknowledged the bonds between us as women. Sadly today, more and more women speak of being “friendless,” having acquaintances but no-one they trust. Continue reading

Today’s Food for Thought

getting older

I find I do not have time much anymore for people whose first question online is “what do you look like.”  I already know it is not going to work because it is probably the last question I will ask.  In fact, I don’t care if I ever know.

Neither do I care what age someone is or what their religious affiliations are, their ethnicity, or their sexual proclivities.  I don’t care how much money they make or where they live.  I don’t care what awards they have won or how famous they or others may think they are. Continue reading


“Oscar Wilde said that if you know what you want to be, then you inevitably become it – that is your punishment, but if you never know, then you can be anything. There is a truth to that. We are not nouns, we are verbs. I am not a thing – an actor, a writer – I am a person who does things – I write, I act – and I never know what I am going to do next. I think you can be imprisoned if you think of yourself as a noun.”   Stephen Fry


“The truly creative mind in any field is no more than this:  A human creature born abnormally, inhumanly sensitive.  To him a touch is a blow, a sound is a noise, a misfortune is a tragedy, a joy is an ecstasy, a friend is a lover, a lover is a god, and failure is death.  Add to this cruelly delicate organism the overpowering necessity to create, create, create – so that without the creating of music or poetry or books of buildings or something of meaning, his very breath is cut off from him. He must create, must pour out creation.  By some strange, unknown, inward urgency he is not really alive unless he is creating.”   Pearl S. Buck

Tolerance is a Weighty Issue.


There seems to be a growing animosity, an arrogant rejection, of the plight of the overweight.   We claim fat people are the biggest cause of medical concerns … as if that means we care about them.  Interesting that the only people I know who have diabetes right now are all “skinny.”  We don’t want them to post pics of themselves claiming to be “beautiful” or be seated next to us.   We insist they are “ugly” and “disgusting.”  We get angry that they should claim to have any rights, or that they should protest against the way they are treated.

People insist “fat” people are not discriminated against in the same way that a gay person or a black person is.  Continue reading