“The doors we open and close each day decides the lives we live.” Buddah
Doors close. Sometimes doors are closed by us and sometimes they are closed for us by others. Some are slammed and others softly close.
There are doors you knew needed closing but you were reluctant to close out of consideration for others and not wanting to hurt them .. and then they slam the door without a second thought for you. You experience the pain of betrayal as you focus on the lack of regard for your feelings by the other person. You did not close the door yourself, you did not want to hurt the other person. There was no other way for this to end except that YOU would be hurt. Either you would continue on in an untenable position – miserable – or you would be betrayed by them.
Perspective allows us to change that by immediately take the door slam as what we needed and by experiencing gratitude that the person set us free and exposed/confirmed who they really are. Both those two events prepare us for new ventures and opportunities. Some people feel very powerful by slamming doors, some feel very powerful ending relationships …. I suppose it is meant to maim and harm, but the truth is … it is a huge relief and you can feel powerful too … powerful and free!
Neal D Walsh said, “Betrayal of yourself in order not to betray another is Betrayal nonetheless. It is the highest betrayal.” We need to close our own doors because we know that we are in control of our own destiny. We need to know what is right for us and to never compromise that. If we feel obligated to compromise self we need to immediately take a step back and ask ourselves whether any relationship or opportunity is worth that. People sidetrack their entire lives, trying to please other people and ignoring their own hearts and the sounding alarms that try to warn them not to go there.
Burning bridges are a very sad way to move through life, trashing people as you go. Endings can be wonderful agreements that your time together is done and both are moving on to different experiences. Ending are inevitable, just some people know how to enact them with integrity and respect, and end up enriching lives instead of cheapening themselves.
I am always excited with endings because it means beginnings are just around the corner and life has the most amazing way of bringing me exactly what I never knew I needed or wanted.
New ventures, new opportunities, new people .. it is all good.
Take the time once that door is closed to sit back and remind yourself who you are and all that you bring to the table. NEVER EVER let someone else’s problems, unhappiness, bad manners, ill timings, deter you from knowing “You’re a Firework.” Never feel the need to go where they are. Let the door close. Take the lessons, remember the great times and let the rest of it go … fireworks travel through the sky lighting up the night, making people stop and smile. Be in the moment. Be YOU.
“Firework.” Katy Perry
Do you ever feel like a plastic bag
Drifting through the wind
Wanting to start again
Do you ever feel, feel so paper thin
Like a house of cards
One blow from caving in
Do you ever feel already buried deep
Six feet under scream
But no one seems to hear a thing
Do you know that there’s still a chance for you
Cause there’s a spark in you
You just gotta’ ignite the light
And let it shine
Just own the night
Like the Fourth of July
Cause baby you’re a firework
Come on show ’em what your worth
Make ’em go “Oh, oh, oh!”
As you shoot across the sky-y-y
Baby you’re a firework
Come on let your colors burst
Make ’em go “Oh, oh, oh!”
You’re gonna leave ’em fallin’ down-own-own
You don’t have to feel like a waste of space
You’re original, cannot be replaced
If you only knew what the future holds
After a hurricane comes a rainbow
Maybe you’re reason why all the doors are closed
So you can open one that leads you to the perfect road