“Admit it. You aren’t like them. You’re not even close. You may occasionally dress yourself up as one of them, watch the same mindless television shows as they do, maybe even eat the same fast food sometimes. But it seems that the more you try to fit in, the more you feel like an outsider, watching the ‘normal people’ as they go about their automatic existences. For every time you say club passwords like ‘Have a nice day’ and ‘Weather’s awful today, eh?’ you yearn inside to say forbidden things like ‘Tell me something that makes you cry’ or ‘What do you think deja vu is for?’ Face it, you even want to talk to that girl in the elevator. But what if that girl in the elevator (and the balding man who walks past your cubicle at work) are thinking the same thing? Who knows what you might learn from taking a chance on conversation with a stranger? Everybody carries a piece of the puzzle. Nobody comes into your life by mere coincidence. Trust your instincts. Do the unexpected. Find the others.”  Timothy Leary

TFFT I Double Dare You.

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Someone ever tell you to let something go that was in the past, and yet … you can’t?

Past experiences that stay with us, the ones we remember, have an emotional charge to them.  There is a hook that keeps pulling us back.  That hook can be a pleasant one where we experience joy or happiness as we think about them, or they can be painful.

Life has a great way of protecting us from things we are incapable of, or unwilling, to face – it allows us to bury them for a period of time.  We can suppress them to the point of not remembering them, or we can just Polly-Anne them to the bottom of our to-do list. But eventually our barriers are broken down and we end up with the item sitting in the middle of our life, insisting we deal with it.  Dealing with it involves finally acknowledging, experiencing, and processing the emotions. Continue reading

TFFT: Whoever Told You It Can’t Get Any Worse – Lied.

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One of the follies of youth is the belief once the mistake has been made, it can’t get any worse.

It can.

And it frequently does.

The only way to make sure that does not happen is to accept immediate responsibility for the situation.  The moment you start making excuses, or try to avoid consequences, or try to blame someone else, you are CHOOSING to set into motion a whole range of events that quickly escalate way beyond the worst case scenario. Continue reading

TFFT: Go Home.


So many kids denigrate their homes because they don’t like the messages they get there . . . those being the messages on how to be a decent human being.  Any message that interferes with them doing what they want, when they want, is deemed to be one  intended to crush their individuality.  It is all about what the world owes them, their rights . . .

But many of these same kids want the rights without the responsibilities.  They are happy to take their parents money, they may insist on it, but they are not happy to then listen to what that same parent has to say about them getting a job, or about finishing school, or eating a more healthy diet. Continue reading