Child Welfare is Broken and It is Killing Our Kids.


“Let’s teach that loving isn’t always loving. Like when you loved the hamster so much that it died. Some adults do that too. Too much, the wrong way. These are ‘Stay away’ zones on your body. These are ‘Stay away’ people. You don’t have to obey all adults. Not even parents. Disagree respectfully. Run, if you need. Shout, if you need. Adults can be bad too.”   ― Deborah Ainslie, All Flowers Are Not Yellow

The poster obviously refers to the Child Welfare in the US but almost any Social Services Department in the world could have been substituted and it would still be true. It is time for us to stand and say NO MORE. Continue reading

Spirituality Is Love.

The word “love” has come to mean many things, most of them just small bits of what the world truly encompasses.  Love is a verb and implies active energy that is healing and passionate.  Compassion is a great part of love . . . the ability to see others and to care about their situations.
Likewise “spirituality” has been misunderstood.  Many people still consider it completely entwined in religion when it isn’t.  Rather, spirituality can be a component of religion and while we could argue it should be, it isn’t always.  Spirituality is much deeper than dogma or ritual.  It speaks to a way of life, a connection to life, a relationship that defines actions.

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“From childhood I was compelled to concentrate attention upon myself. This caused me much suffering, but to my present view, it was a blessing in disguise for it has taught me to appreciate the inestimable value of introspection in the preservation of life, as well as a means of achievement. The pressure of occupation and the incessant stream of impressions pouring into our consciousness through all the gateways of knowledge make modern existence hazardous in many ways. Most persons are so absorbed in the contemplation of the outside world that they are wholly oblivious to what is passing on within themselves. The premature death of millions is primarily traceable to this cause. Even among those who exercise care, it is a common mistake to avoid imaginary, and ignore the real dangers. And what is true of an individual also applies, more or less, to a people as a whole.”  Nikola Tesla

We Have Wars Because Parents Teach Hate.

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When I was in my early twenties, and speaking at a national forum in Ottawa, an elderly man came up to me afterwards wanting to talk.  I turned and reached out my hand to greet him and before I knew it, he had me in a hug.  “You are a Saint,” he whispered into my ear.  Then he released me and stood back.  There were tears in his eyes.

I was deeply embarrassed and assured him I was certainly NOT a Saint.  I had made so many mistakes in my life.  Newly released from my teenage years,  married and mother of 2 children at that point, I was acutely aware of my shortcomings in the “Saint” department.  I explained to him that I was certainly NOT a “Saint.” Continue reading

PAS and Mother’s Day.


Another good site with discussion and sharing.

Good parents know that no child hates their parent unless they are taught. Good parents know how to protect a child’s heart and not to poison it with their own hate. That is not love, that is using the child as a weapon because you are inadequate as a human being and need help.

Parents who applaud or encourage a child to say or do mean or hateful things to their other parent are despicable bullying human beings. if you want to know why kids are bullying one another check out these parents.


I am particularly highlighting one of his posts that may help in your quest to understand if you are a victim of PAS. Continue reading


“The most important things are the hardest to say. They are the things you get ashamed of, because words diminish them — words shrink things that seemed limitless when they were in your head to no more than living size when they’re brought out. But it’s more than that, isn’t it? The most important things lie too close to wherever your secret heart is buried, like landmarks to a treasure your enemies would love to steal away. And you may make revelations that cost you dearly only to have people look at you in a funny way, not understanding what you’ve said at all, or why you thought it was so important that you almost cried while you were saying it. That’s the worst, I think. When the secret stays locked within not for want of a teller but for want of an understanding ear.”  Stephen King