It is hard to be tender hearted. Despite the best efforts of my grandparents who raised me, my teachers, all the cruelty of the world and the mean heartedness of some people, I have survived. I stopped fighting it as a young woman when I finally realized that despite the pain, it was also my greatest gift, affording me sight and understanding that not everyone else had.
But compassion is not just a gift, it is a necessity for our lives, and especially for the future of our children.
The ability to feel compassion means you have a connection to the world around you. It is what causes us to stop from bullying someone when we have been bullied. We can remember how painful it was for us so we can understand the hurt our actions will cause someone else. It is what allows us to respond with a hug and kind words when we see that someone is depressed. It is what can even spur us into action to do away with injustices.
But there is an even greater power in compassion. Not only do we know understand that the emotions we hold in our bodies have a direct impact on our DNA and the life affirming or life denying chemistry that is released in our bodies, we know that compassion has the most powerful impact of all the positive emotions. (See Emotions Can Change Your DNA.)
Dr. David Hawkins in his book Power vs. Force created a Map of Consciousness of the effect of emotions on the energy level, which can be measured through applied Kinesiology. He shows how the presence of just one person who resonates at the higher levels of compassion and empathy are capable of positively impacting the energy of the masses. You can test out and try many of the things he talks about in your own life. It is a fascinating book, well worth a read.
We all have had experience with how the energy of a positive or caring person can alter a room for the better and how someone who is depressed and negative can seem to suck the life right out of people. I have experimented myself by noting the change in my office staff with a change in the emotion I hold in myself. I have learned the power of learning to catch the negative emotions as they happen and channeling myself through simple exercises and practices to a more positive place.
It has brought me such joy to realize I can enjoy what is natural for me instead of being an emotional football that is at the mercy of how others treat me. It has given me a sense of purpose and a firm resolve to honour what my heart asks of me. As I work to improve my ability to overcome my many failings and shortcomings I am moved that in doing so I can make a difference in the world around me and in the lives of those people I love.
Looking at the world and others with compassion has helped me feel more connected, more forgiving, more willing to do what may seem difficult and beyond my reach. I know that all that is needed for all of us to find peace and joy is simply for us to love one another, support one another as each of us find our own ways and determine what our journeys are about and how we will journey them. Defeat is what happens when you focus on the impossible. Success is what happens when you find one thing that you can do right now and do it.