“If I am to be fallen into love, I will. And if as a result I will appear to be stupid, disillusioned, and of poor judgment, I will. And I would be damned if I cared what other people think. For I would rather be thought of as all of these things, than not love. If in loving, I become the naked woman on the horse, I will ride that horse with my head held high. This is my spirit. I am unbreakable.” C. JoyBell C.
People look at the state of the world and ask how we got to be this way, as if they have no idea where the attitudes and thought processes come from that support a world going to hell, sans the hand basket at this point.
The world reflects the attitudes and practices of US! WE are the world. There is no separation of what we practice in our daily lives and what is going on around us.
This past week is a perfect example. A tragedy hit in our neighbourhood and a very small dog , the pet of two small girls, was killed by something. The father found the bloodied remains in his yard upon returning home late one afternoon. He shared the news with the local paper where it made front page. I presume he did so for a number of responsible, community minded reasons. There have been a series of attacks by animals over the past while, some identified as dog attacks, the others unknown. The owner of the dog assumes it was a dog attack but does not say why he assumed that, and no experts were called to establish that fact, and there are no other supporting facts offered in the story. Continue reading
“We tell lies when we’re afraid…afraid of what we don’t know, afraid of what other will think, afraid of what will be found out about us. But every time we tell a lie, the thing we fear grows stronger.” Tad Williams
Love this article: This is How you Know You Raised A Good Kid.
It is interesting watching your children grow as adults. I am amazed how little the details matter – like what kind of car they drive, what their partner looks like, or what they do for a living. The things that give me the most pride is when i see them making choices that show they know how to love and to forgive. When they are mistreated and they do not retaliate with cruelty, when they pu aside their needs and wants for the greater good of their own children . . . even if no-one else will ever know the sacrifice they made,…
Sadly, too often, children become weapons for one parent to use against the other. The need to be right, to get revenge, to hurt someone like you feel you have been hurt, takes over and we can waste a life time teaching our children to hate and carry out our endless acts of revenge against their other parent. Think about that. Think about the legacy that leaves for the world and what kind of people those children are going to be. Would you want your child to end up with one of them as a partner?
Please pay attention to the children who are being raised in broken homes and advocate for them. Tell your child it is not acceptable for them to trash your grandchild’s parent in front of the child. Tell them that a child needs to know they are loved by both parents. Help your child, your friend, to grow up and do the right thing. It strengthens and heals the children, allowing them a chance at being decent people with happy lives, and it can do the same for your child. As wounded as they might be, hanging on to hate, and spending a lifetime championing that emotion, only cancers us all.
“It is not the man who has to little who is poor, but the one who hankers after more.” Seneca, Letters from a Stoic
I am so appreciative for continual growth and expanding understanding. As I have aged I have come to realize how incredibly unimportant things are. I no longer care about acquiring more. I find that spiritually, I just want to reduce and simplify and focus on what is important . . . other people, the world around me, my connection to source.
The other day I was talking to my husband about winning a lottery and he shared that he would never want to win it. His reasoning was that we don’t need it, what would we do with it? It is true, we no longer have a list of things we want to buy. We focus on what we need, and that lessens and lessens. I said that I would still love to win it, because it would be thrilling to think of all the ways I could use it to bless the lives of others. I would give it all away, to people and to programs that would bless the lives of others. We both tried to think of things that we could buy and in the end, there really was nothing we needed, and neither of us have wants that involve material things.
I cannot tell you how incredibly freeing this feeling is and how much more meaningful life seems to me, once I was released from those chains of selfishness. It seems that once I was off that vicious endless cycle, I was able to truly appreciate what I do have. When I did that, I could see that I had more than enough. I let go of listening to advertisements telling me I needed to get a newer couch, a bigger house, a fancier car. Every day that I wake up I take time to look around me, to acknowledge how blessed my life is, to know I have more than enough, and to appreciate and care for what I do have. I am no longer me focused. I am not one giant appetite of need that defines what my life is about. Continue reading
“Love truth. Show yourself as you are, without pretence, without fears and cares. And if the truth means your persecution, accept it; if it means your torment, bear it. And if for the truth’s sake you should sacrifice yourself and your life, be strong in your sacrifice” St. Giuseppe Moscati
When I was a child I remember the first world issue I really took to heart which was the starving children in Bangladesh. I remember crying myself to sleep and writing poetry because the idea that children were starving to death instead of running and playing like I was – was so hard and unfair.
It was a concept, not a reality for me. I looked at pictures, separated with a glossy coolness between the reality and my world that allowed me a disconnect despite the tears. They were “over there” and I was safely “here.”
As I have grown, I have come to understand there are many countries where the mortality rate among children is high, due to violence and poverty. I have grown to understand that there are countries where many young people are killed due to violence and that there are countries where the young are expected to die, irrelevant consequences in ancient and financial tug of wars for religion and power, drugs and sex. Despite my tears and my concerns or even my actions on “behalf of” I am still protected by the label “third world countries” and my own privilege. Continue reading
“There are those who are determined to view you as a phony, fraud, or “a wolf in sheep’s clothing”, no matter how aligned, loving, and heart-centered you happen to be. They will label you as inauthentic when you shine a light that reminds them of their inability to recognize the beauty of their own brightness. They will perceive you as out-of-touch or arrogant, when intimidated by the clarity you emanate that is offered as gifts of transformation for the awakening of all.
Anything you say or do, can and will be interpreted by a small but vocal minority, who are hell-bent on finding the evidence that supports the claims of their limiting beliefs, while lashing out, as a way of begging for the attention they withhold from themselves. Whether they use such criticism of you to resolve lingering turmoil from characters in their past, or deny your innocence based on the light within them that others have shut down, each one is only here to be loved as expressions of divinity – no matter how they think, speak, feel, or behave.
You certainly don’t have to spend time matching wits with someone who only fights in attempt to remain shut down and immune to the fear of potential rejection, but they also don’t have to limit your experience. While their projections, beliefs, judgments, and opinions have nothing to do with your experience of reality, it remains their truthful testimony of how deeply they hurt throughout a healing journey they may not know how to resolve. As this is seen, it is your willingness to embrace your own heart, as a way of sending waves of healing energy throughout the Universe to transform the lives of those who hide in the trenches of despair.
While any accusation reveals how intense of healing journey is underway in the one hurling judgments at you, the celebration of your evolution is dependent upon how you respond. When others hurt your feelings, love yourself more often. When others hurt while lashing out at you – embrace the truth of your innocent nature deeper than ever before. Since your heart is the center of the Universe, through the heart that you love all things are transformed. This is the way of the love revolution. Come as you are. Be as you wish. You deserve more love, not less. I love you.” Matt Kahn