“When people are ready to, they change. They never do it before then, and sometimes they die before they get around to it. You can’t make them change if they don’t want to, just like when they do want to, you can’t stop them.”  Andy Warhol

TFFT – Love The Ones You’re With.

turning point Aha moments can really hit you.  They tend to be a lot more like OMMMMPH moments (imagine getting hit in the gut by someone swinging a bulldozer).  I just had one of those moments,  complete with alarm bells but just short of some type of holy manifestation where the angels appear and tell me that THIS is incredibly important.

I sat up straighter in my chair and tried to pay attention through eyes filled with tears, some in anger (at myself) and some self pity.  I was impressed I could see at all.

The details of what happened are pretty irrelevant – the lesson is not. Continue reading

Today I Learned …

autentic self

I knew there had to be an answer.

My son gave it to me.

What a lot of people do not understand about me is that I ask questions, not because I want to say something bad about other people, but because I really need to understand how things happen.  I know we all think differently and I just could not get my head around this one question.

How do people go to church every Sunday and sit there and hear all the lessons and messages of love, forgiveness and be kind to one another and not get it?  How can they sit there and hear those messages when they live their lives acting superior to everyone else and being cruel and unfair to other people around them?  I mean choose to be a bastard, but then why go to church?  Wouldn’t its lessons get in the way of your life? Continue reading

Today’s Food For Thought


More and more I understand the importance of being open minded, of acknowledging that life is a journey, that we change and grow daily and that holding on to anything and fearing change is a decision to stop life from the flowing energy it is meant to be.

The greater challenge has not been so much about allowing all that for me, as it has been to remind myself it applies to all people.  It is not fair of me to judge anyone based on something they did 10 years ago.  It is not even fair for me to judge someone based on what they did yesterday.  Every moment of our lives change us and that is good, that is positive.  If we can begin to accept that we are flawed, we make mistakes, and those mistakes are some of the most brilliant teaching tools we have.  If we can allow other people to make their mistakes and graciously facilitate their chance to own their learnings and make the changes they need to . . . I believe we will see the power of love in action. Continue reading

Today’s Food For Thought.


I probably am hell to hire.  I always feel like I am the one interviewing them.  After they get through their little song and dance about my qualifications, I have to know if I am going to be expected to do the same thing over and over every day, or to solve one big problem and then just maintaining it.  If that is the case, don’t hire me.  I will be bored out of my gourd.  I need challenge.  I need change.  I crave it.  I have to make sure they understand I am serious.  DON’T HIRE me if that is the game plan.

I guess I have always been excited about change and have never thought of it in terms of something awful or something that I should fear.  The unknown is just something to turn into the known.

I do get bored easily. Continue reading