“But if thought corrupts language, language can also corrupt thought.”
Behold the game of words. Here is a seemingly innocuous little article about having extra “significant others” in your life because, using the theory in this article, it is unfair to expect your Significant Other (SO) to share everything you enjoy doing. The chances anyone could is just highly unlikely.
I am posting this to show how this works. Most people are just going to read the article and get on with their day. There is nothing to really respond to, nothing to cheer for or be upset about, it just appears to be more noise in a very noisy world. The article even goes out of its way to be palatable. It clearly states those extra “significant others” should be platonic. Continue reading
You failed. I am taking back my daughters and gathering all my friends, family and neighbours along the way. You have failed, so colossally failed that all that is left is the disturbed sickness that you have painted across everything in your world.
The Women’s Movement was supposed to be a Movement to make sure our rights were law and that we had equal opportunities. We all envisioned a celebration of what we were as women with a world that would finally see and appreciate our strengths and our worth. We never started out with the idea that all men were the enemy and we must destroy them.
But here we are where Feminists only represent the echo chamber women who are willing to abuse and use other women to get what they want. Here we are where you spit on all things that make us women. Here we are where you have taken our strengths and diminished them. Here we are where far too many women are so out of touch with their unique beauty that they abandon all things woman. Here we are where hate and anger are your constant weapons, making anyone who does not adopt these absurdities your enemy.
Once we dreamed of a time when women would take their rightful place in helping to lead and shape our nations and all you have done is prove how incredibly incapable of that women are. When this started we were often labelled and accused of being hysterical, unable to control our emotions and well … look at the way you conduct yourselves. If we had to face court accused of that again, your actions would be the hundreds of stacks of pages of evidence that would overwhelmingly prove their case. Continue reading
Today I started my day by reading three different stories where incidents had occurred between a woman and a man. The man was definitely in the wrong in each story, providing that the stories were accurately reported, but what struck me was where each story led. Three different writers all ended up with the same theme, one man did a bad thing and therefore all men are bad and women were cautioned to expect the exact same incident from any and all the men that they know.
This seems to be the norm now – the idea that a man is a rapist/pig/stupid/violent/abusive animal, incapable of participating in the same world that women occupy. The jokes are no longer good-natured and funny. Instead, there is a decided barb to every comment women seem to make about men. Women are even translating that into promoting and celebrating violence against men.
“So each of us has a choice. You have a choice. Your thoughts can make you and the world around you suffer more or suffer less. If you want to create a more collegial, harmonious atmosphere in your… community, don’t start by trying to change other people. Your first priority should be to find your own quiet space inside so you can learn more about yourself. This includes getting to know and understand your own suffering. When your practice is solid and you’ve already harvested some of the sweet fruits of getting to know yourself, you can consider ways you can make more room to bring silence, deep looking, understanding, and compassion into your… community.” Thich Nhat Hanh
The emotions we hold in our body speak to our brains and tell it to start producing life-affirming or life-denying chemistry. That chemistry impacts all our organs and floods our body. Positive emotions cause life-enhancing chemistry to be released and negative emotions cause the release of life-denying chemistry. Fear, anger and hate are some of the most negative emotions we feel while love and compassion are the most powerful, positive emotions.
We are killing ourselves by defining our lives with hate.
I will talk with anyone but I will not allow hate into my conversations or my space. I am in control of me and I choose to hold onto love with all my being. Continue reading
“No matter what choice you make, it doesn’t define you. Not forever. People can make bad choices and change their minds and hearts and do good things later; just as people can make good choices and then turn around and walk a bad path. No choice we make lasts our whole life. If there’s ever a choice you’ve made that you no longer agree with, you can make another choice.” Jonathan Maberry
It is hard to haul yourself out of bed and plaster a smile on your face and take a crappy situation and turn it around. It is hard to do that walk past the very people who have made your life miserable and choose not to engage, but instead to keep focused on what you came there to do. Happiness thieves are all around us, trying to bully others into a dark world of misery and drama and fighting. Some do it with sins of commission while others choose omission as their weapon of choice. Continue reading
“Life moves on, whether we act as cowards or heroes. Life has no other discipline to impose, if we would but realize it, than to accept life unquestioningly. Everything we shut our eyes to, everything we run away from, everything we deny, denigrate or despise, serves to defeat us in the end. What seems nasty, painful, evil, can become a source of beauty, joy, and strength, if faced with an open mind. Every moment is a golden one for him who has the vision to recognize it as such.” Henry Miller
As children we are not allowed adult choices because we are incapable of understanding the consequences of our choice. We allow that even when a child makes an adult choice, that they are not held to the same level of responsibility for that same reason. Once a child is considered an adult, they gain the right to make those choices, something we often celebrate and run towards with wild abandon. What is not often discussed, is the consequences which are now married to those choices. In other words, you are free to make adult choices, but you will now also be dealing with and be responsible for, the adult consequences. Continue reading