Step parents are in an unenviable position. Those who are doing an awesome job are often abused by an insecure parent who undermines them at every turn and those who are abusing a child with Parental Alienation Syndrome are destroying live, none more at risk, than the child entrusted in their care.
Adding children into a home, especially when they are not your own, is a difficult thing to do. Well, it can be done, but achieving the goal that everyone gets out alive is a big undertake. Continue reading →
Our children have no way of really understanding how their parents sacrificed for them. Especially not in a war being fought in family courts with lies and parents and step parents bidding for children with money and privilege as if they are real evidence of love.
A wide screen TV, no matter how cool the model, has never made up for the lack of real connection in people’s lives. It is, at best, a temporary distraction. They can never give a person purpose or grounding or ever feed their soul through the long dark night. Continue reading →
Enough is enough. We have to pull together to insist that our family courts recognize the abuse of the system by parents who are not acting in the best interest of their children. We have to SEE how these parents are impacting their children. Continue reading →
How to Save Your Child and Yourself
From the Effects of
Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS)
Dr. Reena Sommer
Anyone one who has experienced or witnessed a child’s outright rejection of a parent with whom they once shared a reciprocally warm, loving, nurturing relationship will understand how devastating the effects of parental alienation syndrome can be. Perhaps more painful than experiencing a son or daughter’s rejection is watching that child’s own sense of confusion, bewilderment and grief mount through a denial of a parent’s love and a bond that developed from birth. (more here …)
The Impact of Parental Alienation Syndrome. . . “There is now scholarly consensus that severe alienation is abusive to children (Fidler and Bala, 2010), and it is a largely overlooked form of child abuse (Bernet et al, 2010) . . . ”
Excellent article on Step Parents who over “step” their role. Most notable, BUTT OUT. You are not in charge and sharing or telling a child anything negative about their real parent is considered abuse and evidence that you are a bad parent. Continue reading →
We have to stop this from happening. The long term damage of children growing up alienated from one of their parents and that whole parents family, who love the child is a much deeper problem than you might think. Consider the cost of raising children to adulthood, coached and coerced into hating someone who is supposed to love and nurture them? Then consider the impact of that child one day realizing that the parent who taught them to hate, lied and used them to promote their own hate. Continue reading →
I would say it is in the shape of the parent being kept out of their lives. We have to acknowledge that alienation happens to both moms and dads. Frankly anyone who would do this a child, is a disgusting human being. I am not sure how anyone can be immune to the obvious signs of a child whose soul is being crushed by the hate one parent has for the other.
Another great website with some super practical tips for dealing with the alienation:
Good parents know that no child hates their parent unless they are taught. Good parents know how to protect a child’s heart and not to poison it with their own hate. That is not love, that is using the child as a weapon because you are inadequate as a human being and need help.
Parents who applaud or encourage a child to say or do mean or hateful things to their other parent are despicable bullying human beings. if you want to know why kids are bullying one another check out these parents.