“I will teach my daughter not to wear her skin like a drunken apology. I will tell her ‘make a home out of your body, live in yourself, do not let people turn you into a regret, do not justify yourself. If you are a disaster it is not forever, if you are a disaster you are the most beautiful one I’ve ever seen. Do not deconstruct from the inside out, you belong here, you belong here, not because you are lovely, but because you are more than that.’” Azra.T
As a parent you start with a bundle they hand you at the hospital. Only it takes but a few days for you to begin to see that this is not a blank page on which you get to write. This is not an empty glass you get to fill with those things that are important to you.
This child has its own ideas and needs. It has different interests and ways of being, and really, all you are is providing the environment in which this person will grow and develop into who they are meant to be.
Often the person they are meant to be challenges the very core of who you are meant to be, and so the process is a journey you both travel, with the wise parent learning, as well as teaching.