TSV The Impact of Parental Alienation on Children



The Impact of Parental Alienation Syndrome. . . “There is now scholarly consensus that severe alienation is abusive to children (Fidler and Bala, 2010), and it is a largely overlooked form of child abuse (Bernet et al, 2010) . . . ”

Every child has a fundamental need for love and protection.

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You Are A Saint.


When I was in my early twenties, and speaking at a national forum in Ottawa, an elderly man came up to me afterwards wanting to talk.  I turned and reached out my hand to greet him and before I knew it, he had me in a hug.  “You are a Saint,” he whispered into my ear.  Then he released me and stood back.  There were tears in his eyes.

I was deeply embarrassed and assured him I was certainly NOT a Saint.  I had made so many mistakes in my life.  Newly released from my teenage years,  married and mother of 2 children at that point, I was acutely aware of my shortcomings in the “Saint” department.  I explained to him that I was certainly NOT a “Saint.” Continue reading

Parental Alienation or Parental Alienation Syndrome??

Do you know the difference between Parental Alienation and Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS)? One is the cause of and the other is the result of.


Outstanding article and website:

We have to stop this from happening.  The long term damage of children growing up alienated from one of their parents and that whole parents family, who love the child is a much deeper problem than you might think.  Consider the cost of raising children to adulthood, coached and coerced into hating someone who is supposed to love and nurture them?  Then consider the impact of that child one day realizing that the parent who taught them to hate, lied and used them to promote their own hate. Continue reading

Parental Alienation Syndrome. Are You an Offender?

Powerful checklists for us all to consider. All of us can take more responsibility and be aware of anything we do that contributes to this problem.

This is not just about those people who are involved in custody battles, it is also about the support groups for those people.  This includes family and friends who, perhaps unwittingly, are giving their approval and support to the actions of a parent who is actually ABUSING their child.  Saying nothing is not an option.  Encouraging them to keep children from their other parent is not healthy.  Facilitating that is to participate in the abuse.  Educate yourself.  Support the well being of children.  They are more important than hate.


Read the rest of the article here:  http://www.hostile-aggressive-parenting.com/symptoms_of_HAP.asp

Heal Our Children. Heal Ourselves.


For the kids who are lost and hurting. For the parents whose arms and hearts are aching. For the systems that are broken and the agencies that have lost the plot somewhere along the way. For the people so full of hate that they use their children as weapons against the other parent. It is time to look at our children and see the pain we have caused. The system is broken. We are broken. And we are breaking an entire generation with our abuse of their hearts. Continue reading

Reflecting on The Circle of Life.


Allow me a moment.

Today I woke up sad.

As I sat drinking my morning coffee and looking out over the day which was unfolding before me, I was thinking back to all the early mornings I was up, wondering how I would make it through the day without any sleep the night before, rocking a baby who had finally fallen asleep, now that that everyone else was about to wake up.  Continue reading