Just a reminder what Christmas is all about. Take some time out from your busy day, grab the partner and your kids and watch a couple of videos that will warm your heart and make you smile. Then look at your loved ones, give them a hug, and remember that none of the material stuff will matter to anyone down the road. The only thing we remember is whether or not we were loved and the time we spend with one another says that louder than anything else.
Every human being wants to be loved and to feel that they belong. In order for there to be a place for a person to fit, they have to contribute in some way to the relationship, the group, or the project. When we feel needed, we feel invested. Our being invested means that we are part of the whole who is tending the whole, instead of us all being isolated and only self focused. Science is just now waking up to the fact that people need to have connections with one another. It is vital for our emotional, spiritual, and physical health. Continue reading
People give in many ways.
It is easy to recognize when someone spends a lot of money on us. We often mistake that as evidence of how loved we are or how special. We use those kinds of gift to suggest the quality of the giver that loves us or of ourselves as in “I deserve this.” We like this because it is tangible and easy to hold up against what others are given and tells us where we stand … As in “better than” or “not as good as.” “What did your boyfriend give you for Christmas? Mine gave me ….” We can be furious when someone spends a small amount of money comparative to what we spent as if the amount we spend signifies the level two people must operate on. Continue reading