How I wish that I could explain to those I love, how wrong the world is. I wish I could go back and erase all the messages that I passed on, some intentional, but so many more that I just inadvertently taught out of my own weaknesses and fears. I wish I could redo it, putting more emphasis on embracing it all and releasing them from any sense of shame for simply being a human being.
The world tries to write our stories with its labels and limiting beliefs. We are too weak, we are not enough, we failed, we can’t, we shouldn’t. There is nothing that happens to us that we need to fear. We can face it. We can overcome it. We can heal. Continue reading
“Everything that happens to you is a reflection of what you believe about yourself. We cannot outperform our level of self-esteem. We cannot draw to ourselves more than we think we are worth.” Iyanla Vanzant
“Create boundaries so that people don’t come into your life behaving badly. Boundaries! When to say yes and when to say no. If you know how to and enjoy to and have a FIRM hand on saying “NO”, put your hand [up]. Boundaries require that you have a STRONG “NO”. A “no” that will PROTECT you. A “no” that will SUPPORT you. A “no” that will ADVANCE your “yes”! Because if you have a weak “no”, you’re GOING to have a weak “yes”. You’ll say “yes” because you feel obligated. You’ll say “yes” because you feel responsible. You’ll say “yes” because you don’t want to upset people. But when you have a STRONG no about what you will do, what you won’t do about your boundaries, when you’re clear about who you BE and what you’re up to and your purpose in the world, you’ll have a REAL strong no. You gotta have a strong “no”. You’ve got to build it from the inside out, so you don’t say YES to things that you’re not clear about, that don’t honor who you BE, that don’t honor the things that you value. It’s up to you. Your no will SAVE you. Be clear. Be authentic. BE authentic.” Iyanla Vanzant
Wouldn’t it be a different world if we raised our children with the idea that they must overcome their fears and learn to love one another? What if instead of being raised to compete against everyone, they were raised with the idea we could all be successful and happiness and share in our joy? What if we raised them with the idea that it was noble to serve one another and to not think of “positions,” or “money,” or “power,” or “fame?” Continue reading