It took me awhile to understand that there is no place where we get to where everything is perfect. There is nothing that is going to be better than, or take the place of this moment. There is only this moment. Sometimes the moment teaches us with pain, sometimes it brings complete pleasure, but every moment is a gift. My greatest sadness comes when I am unwilling to cherish the moment and I long for something that seems to me to be more than what I have right now. Continue reading
“The way I regard those who hurt me today will affect how I experience the world in the future. In any encounter, we have a choice: we can strengthen our resentment or our understanding and empathy. We can widen the gap between ourselves and others or lessen it.” Pema Chödrön
It is not the darkness or the trial that provides the growth in our lives. The darkness often tears down the last of our walls. It breaks us open. Tragedies and trials take us places we would never voluntarily go ourselves and it is then that we are open to the light and healing that comes.
We can fight the darkness. We can deny things happened. We can hold ourselves tighter against the lessons we are meant to learn but it only means the darkness will return and its pressure might be even greater and our breaking apart might needs be even greater. There is no escaping the lessons we are meant to learn. Continue reading
“There is a story of a woman running away from tigers. She runs and runs and the tigers are getting closer and closer. When she comes to the edge of a cliff, she sees some vines there, so she climbs down and holds on to the vines. Looking down, she sees that there are tigers below her as well. She then notices that a mouse is gnawing away at the vine to which she is clinging. She also sees a beautiful little bunch of strawberries close to her, growing out of a clump of grass. She looks up and she looks down. She looks at the mouse. Then she just takes a strawberry, puts it in her mouth, and enjoys it thoroughly. Tigers above, tigers below. This is actually the predicament that we are always in, in terms of our birth and death. Each moment is just what it is. It might be the only moment of our life; it might be the only strawberry we’ll ever eat. We could get depressed about it, or we could finally appreciate it and delight in the preciousness of every single moment of our life.” Pema Chödrön
Meditation and the ability to seek solitude for our healing, well being, and self-awareness cannot be something we are afforded when we can go to the mountains, or create a special room with lots of crystals and incense. It has to become a practical application of daily life that fits seamlessly into our busy schedules and pursuits. Continue reading
Wow does this one sit with me. You can ignore it but it doesn’t go away. You can do the easy way or a half-assed way but it is still going to be there waiting for you to deal with it. Dealing with it is only about one thing … learning the lesson.
Sometimes the lesson comes back with different characters and a different face, but it is the same issue. I figure it would be pretty frustrating to get to the end of your life and realize you went nowhere really, just kept spinning your tires in the same situation simply because you would not learn the lesson. You could have done it the first time, or the 873rd time and moved on to different things, but you didn’t. Continue reading