WORD'S WORTH“The person who is most capable of disturbing your state of peace is a person who is reminding you that you are not truly in the state of peace and enlightenment that results from trust. At that moment, this person is your greatest teacher. This is the person whom you want to treasure and thank God for sending into your life! When you can transcend the rage, anger and upset which that person appears to provoke, and instead say, “Thank you for being my teacher,” you have acknowledged a soul-mate relationship.

Everyone in your life who can still push your buttons and send you into that frenzied state is a master teacher disguised as a manipulative, inconsiderate, frustrating, and non-understanding being. The peace that is enlightenment means that you are not only at peace with those who share your interests and agree with you, and with strangers who come and go, but also with those master teachers who remind you that you still have some work to do on yourself.”  Wayne W. Dyer

Fighting the Demons.


Every day there is a little bird that circles the house and lands at almost every window and proceeds to spend a few minutes pecking at it’s own reflection in the dark glass.  It has been doing it for over a year now .  Today I sat back and watched it for a few moments and wondered about how it processed its daily battle with countless rivals, demon birds in the glass.  He pecks and flies at the window with all the intensity and ferocity the other birds muster in their territorial conflicts with one another in the flesh.  Sure this bird walks away the victor in every battle but as soon as he lands on another window, their is another opponent to take on … an endless supply of birds to fight every day in the endless circle he does around our house.  It must be exhausting.  Continue reading

Closed Doors!

Closed Doors

“The doors we open and close each day decides the lives we live.” Buddha

Doors close. Sometimes doors are closed by us and sometimes they are closed for us by others. Some are slammed and others softly close.

There are doors you knew needed closing but you were reluctant to close out of consideration for others and not wanting to hurt them .. and then they slam the door without a second thought for you. You experience the pain of betrayal as you focus on the lack of regard for your feelings by the other person. You did not close the door yourself, you did not want to hurt the other person. There was no other way for this to end except that YOU would be hurt. Either you would continue on in an untenable position – miserable – or you would be betrayed by them. Continue reading

Today I Learned …

autentic self

I knew there had to be an answer.

My son gave it to me.

What a lot of people do not understand about me is that I ask questions, not because I want to say something bad about other people, but because I really need to understand how things happen.  I know we all think differently and I just could not get my head around this one question.

How do people go to church every Sunday and sit there and hear all the lessons and messages of love, forgiveness and be kind to one another and not get it?  How can they sit there and hear those messages when they live their lives acting superior to everyone else and being cruel and unfair to other people around them?  I mean choose to be a bastard, but then why go to church?  Wouldn’t its lessons get in the way of your life? Continue reading


“The way I regard those who hurt me today will affect how I experience the world in the future. In any encounter, we have a choice: we can strengthen our resentment or our understanding and empathy. We can widen the gap between ourselves and others or lessen it.”  Pema Chödrön


The Lies We Tell Ourselves.

worst lies

The only thing that can ever die is that which is a lie.  Truth stands forever.  What is real stands forever.

At the end of this life, we lay our bodies in the ground, because they are not real.  They are not us.  The real part of who we are continues on, freed from the confines of a physical body.

We talk of valuing life but it is not the shell that is worth fighting for, it is the spirit within that we are honouring.  In life, it is the lies that we must conquer.  We must see the truth.  We must see what is real and we must fight for it, and expose it, and honour it.  Continue reading

Letting Go.


“To let go does not mean to get rid of.  To let go means to let be.  When we let be with compassion, things come and go on their own.”   Jack Kornfield

I was sitting out by the pool today and reflecting.

We talk about letting go of things and often it is in terms of the bad things in our life.  Sometimes we talk about the past, sometimes about people and situations that are not really healthy for us.  We talk about letting go so that we can move on to new and better things. Continue reading