When I was growing up, one of my friends had the most awesome doll house. Well, it looked awesome on the package it came in. He dad never got around to putting it up for her and so it stayed in the box, to be shown sometimes as, what she could have.
Our “houses” were pretty make-shift. I used an old cupboard divided into 4 compartments and made do with what every bits and pieces I could work in there. A shoe was a car, a thong was a convertible. I covered boxes with material to be a bed … everything in my house was 3/4 imagination and 1/4 raw material. It was nowhere near in the same ballpark as my friends. She had entire room settings with her house, where everything matched and was to scale. Continue reading
We are so caught up in how others see us and what they think. People practically take a poll of their friends before making a decision. It is like we consciously choose to give our power away to other people. We don’t even seem to know we are powerful.
I have been trying to pay attention to the many messages we give our children about their self value. Most parents are clear on the need, during discussions about self-esteem, as to how it works BUT how many actually have that conversation? And how do our actions support or contradict what is said? Children learn by example. Continue reading
I am not sure why we are taught to fear the darkness. It really does nothing more than to teach us to fear ourselves and undermine the idea that our “God” or “Love” is more powerful than any darkness.
Darkness cannot consume light.
We can’t begin to understand our human journey without confronting our own darkness. Therein lies the truth that we are no better than anyone else. We are imperfect. We make mistakes. That is where our fear lie, those stumbling blocks that have the most ability to impede our progress, our success . . . our happiness. Continue reading
“Lots of people are born into lives that feel like a journey in the very middle of a big ship on familiar seas; they sit comfortably, crossing their legs, they know when the sun will rise and when the moon will wane, they have plans that they follow, they have a map! But then there are those of us, a few, who are born into lives that feel like standing at the very top of the ship’s stern; we have to stand up, hold on tight for dear life, we never know when the waves will rock and we never know where the sun will set or when the moon will wane! Nothing follows the laws of common nature and we live in a wild, wild awakening and the only map we have is the map of the stars! We’re called to see the lighting tear at the horizon, we’re chosen to roar with the tempests, but we’re also the first ones to see the suns rise, the first ones to watch the moons form anew! There is nothing ordinary, nothing at all. But neither are we! And we wouldn’t want it any other way!” C Joybell C
It’s a simple word.
It’s not a simple concept to enact.
Part of the problem comes from people trying to determine if what someone else is dealing with requires courage. The conversation usually disintegrates to someone saying something like, “I don’t know what the big deal is, I went through that last year and it was no big deal.” Continue reading
“Don’t start your day with the broken pieces of yesterday. Every day is a fresh start. Each day is a new beginning. Every morning we wake up is the first day of the rest of our life.”
It is not the darkness or the trial that provides the growth in our lives. The darkness often tears down the last of our walls. It breaks us open. Tragedies and trials take us places we would never voluntarily go ourselves and it is then that we are open to the light and healing that comes.
We can fight the darkness. We can deny things happened. We can hold ourselves tighter against the lessons we are meant to learn but it only means the darkness will return and its pressure might be even greater and our breaking apart might needs be even greater. There is no escaping the lessons we are meant to learn. Continue reading
Years ago, when I first started speaking, I addressed auditoriums full of people, who would come to me afterwards and tell me what a great talk I gave. I found myself depressed. I did not want to be the entertainment. I wanted what I said to be a tool that caused people to find within themselves a course of action that changed them, changed the way things were. I wanted to empower them.
I gave way the auditoriums for a more intimate one on one setting with smaller groups. I wanted to be sure each person was getting what they needed, but still I had people showing up who had a toolbox full of manuals and books and ticket stubs from all their classes and workshops. Tucked in their wallets were the tickets to the next one already booked after my class. These people go through life collecting tools that they never use. They think they win by having the most tools at the end of it all and never seem to understand that they are meant to put them to use, to test them, to make them their own unique tools. Continue reading
Wouldn’t it be a different world if we raised our children with the idea that they must overcome their fears and learn to love one another? What if instead of being raised to compete against everyone, they were raised with the idea we could all be successful and happiness and share in our joy? What if we raised them with the idea that it was noble to serve one another and to not think of “positions,” or “money,” or “power,” or “fame?” Continue reading
Meditation and the ability to seek solitude for our healing, well being, and self-awareness cannot be something we are afforded when we can go to the mountains, or create a special room with lots of crystals and incense. It has to become a practical application of daily life that fits seamlessly into our busy schedules and pursuits. Continue reading