Step parents are in an unenviable position. Those who are doing an awesome job are often abused by an insecure parent who undermines them at every turn and those who are abusing a child with Parental Alienation Syndrome are destroying live, none more at risk, than the child entrusted in their care.
Adding children into a home, especially when they are not your own, is a difficult thing to do. Well, it can be done, but achieving the goal that everyone gets out alive is a big undertake. Continue reading →
There are plenty of problems with step moms who overstep their boundaries with their step child and who make a difficult situation worse.
Your ego has NO PLACE in the situation you find yourself in. You got involved with a man who has a history that involves his children from a previous marriage/relationship. You clearly chose to be in this position.
Enough is enough. We have to pull together to insist that our family courts recognize the abuse of the system by parents who are not acting in the best interest of their children. We have to SEE how these parents are impacting their children. Continue reading →
I have never understood how adults act without any connection to the pain they are causing their children. I have never understood choosing to live in a living room filled with constant hate and a hyper vigilant need to destroy or undermine the other parent. Children are forced to live with that and their response is to do whatever is necessary to create peace. Sadly, most often, that requires them to play the game of hating the other parent and never visiting them because at least then it makes the primary care parent calmer. These children are not choosing to alienate the other parent. They are beaten into submission by the hate of the controlling parent. Continue reading →
Excellent article on Step Parents who over “step” their role. Most notable, BUTT OUT. You are not in charge and sharing or telling a child anything negative about their real parent is considered abuse and evidence that you are a bad parent. Continue reading →
Outstanding article and please be reminded, that while these situations are most commonly witnessed with the father being the maligned parent, it happens to women as well. In addition step parents take on the role of abusing the actual parent. Bottom line . . . it is NEVER appropriate for ANYONE to do anything other than support and encourage a child to have a healthy relationship with both their parents whenever possible.
COURT REVIEW, VOLUME 28, NUMBER 1, SPRING 1991, p 14-21
American Judges Association
LEGAL AND PSYCHOTHERAPEUTIC APPROACHES TO THE THREE TYPES OF PARENTAL ALIENATION SYNDROME FAMILIES When Psychiatry and the Law Join Forces Richard A. Gardner, M.D.Continue reading →