TFFT I Believe in You

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I see the truth in you.  I see the beauty and all the possibilities.  Hidden behind the physical, the barriers or how you define yourself or what you do, I see you.  I see the light.

As children we only know ourselves as endlessly possible and we embrace life and people and situations with a complete willingness to learn about ourselves, others and the world.  As we grow up we often find ourselves caught in the dilemma of fighting for a vision of ourselves that has dimmed with each passing year and possibly standing alone, never to be understood, or joining everyone else and blending into the woodwork.  One is a lonely unknown and the other is a group activity with thousands before us and thousands behind.  We might be happy, right? Continue reading

TFFT If You Don’t Stand For Something, You Stand For Nothing.

not enough to be good

We have a responsibility to ourselves, our families and our communities to see what is happening around us and to do something about it.  None of us can afford to wait until we are personally impacted by the many tragedies going on in the world today.  If we are not going to act as a world wide community then we are doomed ourselves to stand alone in our own tragedy when it arrives at our door . . . and we have no-one else to blame but ourselves.  Continue reading


“If you really want to know your mind, the body will always give you a truthful reflection, so look at the emotion, or rather feel it in your body. If there is an apparent conflict between thought and emotion, the thought will be the lie, the emotion will be the truth. Not the ultimate truth of who you are, but the relative truth of your state of mind at that time.”  Eckhart Tolle

Beware the Hidden Lies in the Beautiful Ideas.

for a reason

I happen to disagree with this statement.

This is not a criticism on the people who posted the poster from Facebook – Changeyourthoughtstoday, or whoever made the poster, or even Iyanla Vanzant.  It is a criticism of what the quote is saying.

There is a reason why people can react so viscerally to statements like this, that are most often found with religions.  It suggests that we alone are responsible for everything that happens to us.  It suggests that if we are not successful or happy, that we alone are to blame and that people who are successful and happy are better people.  It often shades over into, they are loved more, are stronger, have more faith, etc etc – depending on the agenda of the organization that is promoting the idea. Continue reading


“You may remember the story of how the devil and a friend of his were walking down the street, when they saw ahead of them a man stoop down and pick up something from the ground, look at it, and put it away in his pocket. The friend said to the devil, “What did that man pick up?” “He picked up a piece of Truth,” said the devil. “That is a very bad business for you, then,” said his friend. “Oh, not at all,” the devil replied, “I am going to let him organise it.””  J Krishnamurti

TFFT: The Road to Happiness.

what you find

It has always struck me as such a contradiction that we send people to classes on self-esteem and to have confidence, but the moment someone is comfortable in their own skin, or able to promote their abilities, we are ready to get the tar and feathers.

The journey for me, to know myself, has been filled with truths.  I am probably more brutally honest with myself, more critical, more willing to say the unsaid, than any of my enemies can dream of.  When I can stand up and raise my hand and volunteer that I can indeed do something, it comes from a painful journey of self awareness.  To get there, I am also aware of the many things I cannot do well or maybe not at all.   Am I expected to raise my hand to announce – I cannot do that, I suck at it … completely? Continue reading

TFFT : Question Everything.

children to read

Teaching kids to question also means that you have to facilitate their questioning you.  There are effective ways of doing that.

You begin with giving them input and options within parameters that you are comfortable with, and that allow for safety.  A big part of this is following through with the consequences of those choices because learning to question, with integrity and not just to cause problems, requires critical thinking.  Critical thinking, requires, among other things, that a person is able to consider the bigger picture and see beyond their immediate actions. Continue reading

Today’s Food For Thought


I get tired of people blaming things on other people.

My life became so much less complicated when I finally accepted I am totally and completely responsible for me.  I may not get to control everything that happens to me and gosh knows there are a lot of horrible people out there volunteering to be nasty and mean, but I sure as heck get to control what I ALLOW to impact me.  I wouldn’t allow some stranger walking by to step into my house and tell me how to decorate, why on earth would I allow them to have any influence on who I am as a person? Continue reading