“This is a familiar scenario in our homes, in our workplaces, in our communities, even when we’re just driving our cars. We’re just driving along and someone cuts in front of us and then what? Well, we don’t like it, so we roll down the window and scream at them. War begins when we harden our hearts, and we harden them easily—in minor ways and then in quite serious, major ways, such as hatred and prejudice—whenever we feel uncomfortable. It’s so sad, really, because our motivation in hardening our hearts is to find some kind of ease, some kind of freedom from the distress that we’re feeling.”  Pema Chodron

Remembrance Day 2013

RDay 2013

There has been a lot of talk lately about Remembrance type ceremonies and if they perpetuate war.  People, I suspect it is people who seldom attend or have no real connection to the experience, are refusing to go.

I used to live in Canada.   4th generation Canadian who grew up in a country mainly known for peace keeping and being incredibly polite.  I didn’t know anyone who had served in the war and I certainly didn’t know anyone who was in the army.  I never lost a moment of sleep worrying that anyone might not come home.

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When Does It Stop?

no war

Ever had someone come to you with stories of what “everyone” is saying?  After a time you begin to clue in and you might ask, “who exactly is ‘everyone?'”  Usually it comes down to a couple, maybe even just one other person … most likely THE person telling you??  Ever had someone say something like “you Canadians always  (insert some obscure observation this person has heard about once when he was drunk).”  Ever notice how people tend to make grand sweeping statements like this?  Ever been accused of something you didn’t do because well, guilt by association and people wanted someone to pay for what had happened?

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